yes, i am asian. no, my boyfriend isn't. no, he's not white either.

some time ago i was in calculus class talking to my friend and two other people in our work group. somwhere in the conversation came up the ethnicity of the boyfriend of one of the girls in my group. she's vietnamese. she mentioned that her boyfriend is mexican and my friend reacted with "why?". he was sort of in shock that she wasn't dating an asian or white guy. in fact he asked, "you don't like dating asian guys?" to her. and i said to him, "why are you so shocked? my boyfriend is israeli. we don't always date asian guys or white guys." and he said to me, "but still. it's just unexpected."

unexpected? so it's "expected" for an asian girl to date another asian person. or even a white person. but everything else is "unexpected". talk about unexpected: my boyfriend is israeli, and jewish. probably someone you wouldn't expect to be holding hands with me walking around serramonte. but hey, we're different. i hate that the sterotype of asian-white couples is "expected" these days. i have a white ex-boyfriend. i hated how people looked at us as being the sterotype. some people even thought the only reason i liked him was because he was white.

it's pretty amazing how a simple sterotype can affect the pre-assumptions in a person's mind.

-Donna ;]